Don’t worry, you’re in the right place

If you’re reading this, odds are good you came here looking for Tao of Indifference. Or you went looking for dating advice, and landed here. Don’t worry, you’re in the right place. All the content you’ve loved, read, listened to, or happened upon because of a random search term is all here. The address may have changed, but business remains the same.

So why change the name? What’s the point?

I started the Tao of Indifference in January of 2013. What started as a whim became a blog I worked hard to make into something I could be proud of. The original philosophy of the blog was simple. Give honest, straightforward dating and relationship advice based on my experience, stressing the importance of being indifferent when it came to the small slights we all face in dating to focus on the big picture. It’s what made me successful at dating at the time, and what I’d recommend to my followers.

In between then and now, things have changed. Close to five years later, how I view dating and relationships, and how I view love, have grown and changed as I’ve grown as a person. Lots of lessons big and small between then and now, but one of the major things I learned is that giving a crap and risking being hurt outweighs the satisfaction of being indifferent and “succeeding” at dating. I disagree with that oft-quoted line about indifference being expensive, it’s free as hell. It’s more expensive to care, and it’s more risky to care, but you can only win big if you bet big.

I hope the rebrand/name change reflects not only my growth as a person, but also a (very slight) shift in what this blog is. If you follow me for dating advice or relationship advice (as broad as these subjects are), good news, none of that is changing. I’ll still talk about the dating app du jour, or how to get over being ghosted, but I’d like to cover things that I love, and things that I think you might love. Indifference has its place and purpose, but loving things unabashedly is something I want to embrace.

Trust me when I say that if you came to this blog looking for dating advice, or relationship advice, or to get an answer for any question remotely related to either of those things, you’re in the right place. Whether you’re in love,  looking for love, or love that you can have a dating life that doesn’t involve monogamy, commitment, or even romantic love, I want this site to be for you.

Good Luck Out There.

6 Replies to “Don’t worry, you’re in the right place”

  1. OMG I love this so much! It sounds like you’ve experienced something profound and it resulted in positive growth–that’s awesome! I look forward to reading your new points-of-view along with the usual sound advice <3

    1. Thanks Liz! Truth be told, there have been some pretty profound changes in the last year or so, though it’s been a long time coming. I like to think it’s led to me being a better writer, with new points of view. Thanks as always for reading, I hope you stick around for what’s to come!

  2. This is Awesome! It definitely will be just as if not more successful than Tao. I’m excited to read the new blogs